Vows Based on Relationship Science

laughing vows jpgWriting vows can be a real challenge—after all, these are the promises that you are making to the one person whom you never want to hurt.  These are promises you want to keep forever.  No pressure!  I always encourage couples to consider and discuss the vows they want to make, regardless of whether they write their own or borrow from already beautifully written vows.  The important part is that you make promises you can keep and promises that will strengthen your relationship.

Here are 10 vows written by Samantha Joel, each one based on a aspect of relationship science.  If you want to read about the science, you can read the complete article here.

I promise to respect, admire, and appreciate you for who you are, as well as for the person you wish to become.
I promise to support and protect your freedom; because although our lives are intertwined, your choices are still yours alone.
I promise to seek a deep understanding of your wishes, your desires, your fears and your dreams.
I promise to always strive to meet your needs; not out of obligation, but because it delights me to see you happy.
I promise to be there for you when you need me, whenever you need me.
I promise to nurture your goals and ambitions; to support you through misfortune and celebrate your triumphs.
I promise to keep our lives exciting, adventurous, and full of passion.
I promise to persevere when times get tough, knowing that any challenges we might face, we will conquer them together.
I promise to treat you with compassion over fairness, because we are a team, now and for always.
I promise to show you, every day, that I know exactly how lucky I am to have you in my life.