I love these vows because of their focus on the changing nature of relationships and life and love. I love the deliberate and thoughtful approach to marriage they offer.
Dearest _____, I do now choose you and take you
to be my wife/husband/partner/mate
to witness and assist in my becoming,
to hold me, as your beloved, in your heart.
I give you my love, the steadfastness
of my purpose, my will, and my hope, and my highest
intention that always, in one another’s presence,
we may unflinchingly become who we are
and with unswerving commitment be willing
to do what we came here to do.
You are my lover, my teacher, my model,
my accomplice, and my true counterpart.
I will love you, hold you, and honor you,
respect you, encourage you, and cherish you,
in health and in sickness
through sorrow and success
for all the days of my life.